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Vol. 12, No. 18 – June 5 – June 18, 2019 – Movie Review

Movie Review by Cindy Summers
Booksmart

4 palm trees out of 4

Booksmart is a coming of age comedy about two high school seniors, Molly and Amy, on their way to graduation when they come to the realization that they’ve spent all their time working hard thinking they’ll get ahead, only to discover that they’re on pace with all the other students that enjoyed their high school days partying and slacking off. Released by United Artists, Directed by Olivia Wilde, and Written by Katie Silberman, Emily Halpern, Susanna Fogel and Sarah Haskins. Starring Beanie Feldstein as Molly and Kaitlyn Dever as Amy.

The chemistry between Dever and Feldstein is phenomenal, and their on screen friendship is endlessly comical and believable. Though outcasts among their peers, they both have strong, somewhat misguided confidence in themselves fueled by constantly supporting and inspiring each other.

Molly is on her way to Yale and graduating as class valedictorian, while Amy is heading to Botswana to help women and right behind Molly as salutatorian. Molly is the driving force behind the duos escapades as they go from party to party throughout the town searching for the big graduation party with all the popular students, including Amy’s crush.

Interestingly, Amy is gay, though has had no physical experience, just a crush on another seemingly gay girl, and her sexuality is strongly supported by her best friend and parents, who think Amy and Molly are a couple due to the amount of time they spend together.

The movie touches on some somewhat taboo subjects, such as teen masturbation, but does so in a way that disarms the audience with humor and hilarious comedic timing. It also presents homosexuality as an openly accepted way of life between the students, and even with the parents and teachers as well.

Beanie Feldstein is fierce as Molly, and truly embodies the spirit of an awkward academic outsider. Kaitlyn Dever is well cast in her role as Amy, the quieter of the two who is focused finding a nice girl to have her first experience with and does well at portraying the confusion and vulnerability that comes with teen sexuality.

Additional standouts are Billie Lourd as Gigi, a wild party girl who strangely pops up doing random things everywhere Molly and Amy end up, and Skyler Gisondo as Jared who outwardly seems superficial and not so bright, but is actually very conscientious coming to the rescue in his own way several times in the movie.

I found myself laughing out loud throughout the movie, but there were also touching moments of kindness and several unexpected twists that have you rooting for the two to succeed. It also does very well at depicting how teenage life can be so exciting, confusing, awkward and challenging all at the same time and has a genuine way of sharing it from the teen perspective.

Rated R – 105m

Vol. 12, No. 18 – June 5 – June 18, 2019 – A View from House Seats

by Shirley Lorraine
Mayhem takes over Conejo Stage

Audiences can count on Conejo Players in Thousand Oaks to make going to the theater fun. Their current production of Don’t Dress for Dinner pulls laughs from beginning to end in a fast-paced, try-to-keep-up storyline of infidelity, alibis and misunderstandings.

Written by French playwright Marc Camoletti, the play was adapted for British audiences and finally, for Americans. Conejo Players director and set designer John Eslick has taken the script a step further by relocating the setting to New York, circa 1970’s which works extremely well. The 70’s was a ménage of bad clothes, high hair and exploratory morals, all of which keeps the audience in stitches throughout.

Bernard (Kyle Johnson) and Jacqueline (Melissa Higashi) portray a married couple who live in a converted farmhouse in upstate New York. The living room was once a barn, the kitchen a chicken coop and connected rooms feature a cow shed and a piggery, now serving as bedrooms. The layout and style of the house itself adds to the comedy.
Both harbor a secret. Jacqueline is scheduled to visit her mother when she finds out that Bernard has invited his best friend, Robert (Alex Carrasco) for the weekend to supply an alibi for him so that he can invite his mistress Suzanne (Reign Lewis).

However, Jacqueline and Robert are having an affair of their own and when Jacqueline learns Robert is coming, she quickly cancels her plans to go away which in turn skews Bernard’s plans. A cordon bleu trained chef named Suzette (Olivia Heulitt) is hired to provide a sumptuous dinner but quickly becomes ensnared in an endless charade of mixed-up identity, causing mounting confusion all around. No fool, she plays along – for a price.

When Suzanne finally arrives, she is thought to be the cook and shuffled to the kitchen which results in a less than perfect dinner. Trying their best to salvage the weekend, the couples and the real cook build on the lies to a hysterical degree. Last, but not least, the cook’s husband George (Nick Schmidt) appears to bring the evening’s mayhem to a conclusion.

The cast is a tight ensemble which handles the pace and non-stop challenge of keeping their lies straight very well. Kyle Johnson and Melissa Higashi pull off the kitsch of the 70’s beautifully via their wardrobe and attitudes, and, in Higashi’s case, the high hair. Definitely an era of notable fashion.

The others are dressed in more generic era clothing, giving the lead roles the spotlight. While Suzanne’s big blonde “do” is character appropriate, her facial expressions are often hidden by her curls. Too bad, as she has some looks that shoot clear messages without words.

Director Eslick and the entire cast have captured playwright Camoletti’s sense of high frivolity, desires, resignations and anxieties for our enjoyment. And we shall. Don’t Dress for Dinner provides a worthwhile evening filled with laughs. Go and enjoy.
Don’t Dress for Dinner continues through June 22. Performances are Fridays at 8 p.m., Saturdays at 2 and 8 p.m., Sundays at 2 p.m. and one Thursday (6/6) at 8 p.m. Reservations are recommended. Seating is open. Tickets available at www. ConejoPlayers.org. (805) 495-3715 and at the door.

Ventura’s Salvation Army helps homeless man reconnect with his daughter after 27 years

Lt. Fabio Simoes snaps a selfie with the men in Ventura’s Salvation Army Program. Kc, David, Kent Spurlock, Joseph, Adam, Leo, Jerry, Gabriel and Brendan. Photo courtesy of Lt. Fabio Simoes

by Maryssa Rillo

Kent Spurlock, a Ventura native and transient homeless man returned to his hometown of Ventura, in November 2018. After having a stent operation, Spurlock was placed in recuperative care and was introduced to the people of the Ventura Salvation Army. There he received the help he needed and was reconnected with his daughter after 27 years.

I was in Little Rock, Arkansas and I bought a motor cycle and was flying down the highway with no helmet and the holy spirit came upon me and I tried to get back with life. I have been a transient homeless person for many years and I owe California. I came back to California and in doing so, I got introduced to the Salvation Army,” Spurlock said.

At the Salvation Army, Spurlock met Lieutenants Fabio and Silvia Simoes, Corps Officers of the Salvation Army California South Divisions, and they changed his life.

I can’t even explain to the people of Ventura County and the donors to the Salvation Army how important it is to support the Salvation Army of Ventura. Pastor Fabio and Silvia have been working there for five years. I did not know them and when I met them, they opened my eyes,” Spurlock said. “I started going to church with Salvation Army which opened other doors and my mind.”

Spurlock said that he was inspired to search for his daughter after witnessing Lt. Fabio Simoes help others reconnect with their family members.

Through the Salvation Army’s shelter, Spurlock had unlimited access to computers, so he decided to begin his search for his daughter in February 2019.

By going to church Pastor Fabio had helped another individual reconnect his life with his family and I started thinking ‘why can’t I do that?’ And I did, and guess what? She was there, she was there. It took me how many texts, probably a good dozen until she responded,” Spurlock said.

Spurlock said the last time he saw his daughter was in 1991 when he was on parole from prison. At the end of May, 2019 his daughter responded to his texts. Spurlock’s daughter now lives in North Carolina, so they have not been able to meet in person, but they do keep in contact. Spurlock also learned that he has a ten-year-old grandson and a seven-year-old granddaughter.

I sat there on that computer day in and day out and she finally responded. I have Pastor Fabio Simoes to thank for that,” Spurlock said.

The Simoes began working with Ventura’s Salvation Army Ministry in 2014. The couple works on five-year assignments so they will be moving to Portland, Oregon this summer.

Lt. Fabio Simoes said he enjoys helping people through the missionary and the Salvation Army. He said they have case managers who help the residents find jobs which gives them opportunities to save money for a better life.

Working with the Salvation Army is priceless. Seeing people without any hope and we just get to offer them the possibility to have a good life. It’s priceless,” said Simoes.

Simoes said that he always encourages the residents to reconnect with their families. Once a resident leaves the Salvation Army, Simoes said he still tries to keep in contact with them.

I give them my business card with my cell phone number. If they need a friend, I tell them to ask me for help and I give them advice,” Simoes said.

The Simoes’ last day in Ventura will be on June, 23rd 2019.

If it hadn’t been for Pastor Fabio, his solidness and Silvia’s goodness, between the two of them, Ventura is going to lose very important people towards the community. Those two people made a difference in my life,” Spurlock said. “The church was not that way before the Simoes took demand of the Salvation Army. They made a huge change.”

Vol. 12, No. 18 – June 5 – June 18, 2019 – Opinion/Editorial

∙ Recently, Richard Lieberman, and I had lunch with Jeff Lambert, the City’s former Community Development Director (see cover story). He is now working for the City of Oxnard and very happy there. A real loss for Ventura.

Circus Vargas will not be coming to Ventura this year, but will perform in Camarillo and Santa Barbara. Tried to find out why they are not coming to Ventura, but I wasn’t able to get an answer.

∙ I do not like guns. I think only law enforcement (and not sure about some of them) should possess them. But I have no problem with the Fair board who earlier voted 5-2 to allow Crossroads of the West to put on two shows as the board works on developing a policy governing them. The company is seeking authorization to host three more this year.

Owning most guns is legal, so in my opinion gun shows should be allowed to take place here just as marijuana stores should be allowed in Ventura.

Baseball now has instant replay – it takes 20 minutes.

∙The U.S. Navy has acknowledged that a request was made to hide the USS John S. McCain during President Donald Trump’s recent state visit to Japan. Couldn’t they just add a beard to it, so it is not recognizable?

∙ The California Senate has voted 33-0 to let pet owners, 18 and older, purchase medical marijuana for their animals if they have a recommendation from a veterinarian who has completed a specific course. The bill would give veterinarians the same protections as doctors who recommend marijuana for human patients. So, pretend you have a dog and share their pot.

∙Why do hospitals wake people up to give them their sleeping pills?

∙Ventura’s development process is cumbersome and slow, with many, many planning and review processes to apply for. And, then doesn’t provide nearly enough certainty that the development will ever be approved, even if all procedures are followed.

During a recent City Council meeting, member Jim Friedman stated, “The time to change it is now. We need a plan that tells the world Ventura is open for business. We need to change the way we do business drastically in the city of Ventura.” I could not agree more.

Too often projects are appealed to the council, and instead of looking at the big picture, (should the project have 40 units, or 38, for example), the council becomes the defacto design review committee and ends up commenting on innocuous things, such as the color of the front doors.

Whether you agree or disagree that we need new development (we do), developers should have a clear understanding of what they need to do to receive approval. Often, they spend hundreds of thousands of dollars and then decide to just walk away from Ventura.

In order to make that happen, the Council voted to have staff return with information on streamlining, improving and simplifying the current design review process and to consider the following (among other things);

Disbanding the Historical Preservation Committee and replacing it with staff review and, where needed, outside consultants. This I strongly agree with.

Allowing each Council member to appoint her or his own Planning Commission member whose term would run concurrent with that of the elected official.

∙After all this time, the family of slain Anthony Mele Jr. is suing the city and the Aloha Steakhouse where he was stabbed to death by Jamal Jackson, a 50-year-old homeless man.

The widow and daughter of Anthony have sued the restaurant and the City over his death. They claim that the City of Ventura and the restaurant may have some responsibility.

I can’t comment on the City’s liability but to sue Aloha seems absurd. Should they be required to have a security guard sit at every table? In fact, diners at the restaurant and Aloha employees acted in a heroic manner chasing Jackson and attending to Anthony’s wounds. In my opinion, they should be commended not sued.

All newspaper reports (except the Breeze) stated that Mele’s daughter, then 5 years old, was sitting on his lap during the murder. She was present but not sitting on his lap. But this would certainly get to the emotions of jury members.

∙ An REO, or “real estate owned,” refers to a kind of property owned by a lender, like a bank, after a foreclosure. An Oreo is a sandwich cookie.

In a House Financial Services Committee hearing, Secretary of Housing and Urban Development Ben Carson mixed-up the two terms. Rep. Katie Porter, D-Calif., was attempting to ask Secretary Carson about disparities in REO rates. Federal Housing Administration loans have far more properties that become real estate owned, than other loans from Fannie Mae or Freddie Mac.

“I would also like to ask you to get back to me, if you don’t mind, to explain the disparity in REO rates. Do you know what an REO is?” asked the congresswoman.

“An Oreo…” replied Carson. “No not an Oreo. An R-E-O,” she replied.

E-cigarette flavors can damage the cells that line your blood vessels and perhaps your heart health down the line, according to a new study of human cells in the lab. The study, published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology, adds to growing evidence that the flavored “e-liquids” used in vapes can hinder human cells’ ability to survive and function. The authors say these changes, some observed in the absence of nicotine, are known to play a role in heart disease.

∙ After 42 years in business, co-founders Larry Fitzgerald and Mark Hartley have announced they are closing their Management company in Ventura and Nashville, The Fitzgerald Hartley Company. Hartley is very well known in Ventura for the wonderful businesses that he started here including the building where Limon y Sol is now located on Main. He will continue to manage artists and develop film and television properties. He has been missed since he left Ventura.

Ventura Land Trust’s Annual Wild and Scenic Film Festival 2019: Bigger, bolder, better and under the stars

Enjoy an array of award-winning short films. Photo by Dan Holmes

Sustainability Now News
by Maryann Ridini Spencer (@MaryannRidiniSpencer)

Ventura Land Trust’s 10th Annual Wild and Scenic Film Festival featuring an array of award-winning short films that educate, entertain and inspire, will take place Saturday, August 17, 2019, under the stars on the picturesque grounds of the Ventura County Credit Union, 2575 Vista Del Mar Drive for the second year in a row. Doors open at 5:00 pm for the popular event which sells out annually. Films begin screening at 8:00 pm.

The Ventura Festival, part of SYRCL’S Wild & Scenic Film Festival, which celebrates 18 years of inspiring activism through film and art in 2019, aligns with Ventura Land Trust’s mission, to protect and preserve Ventura County’s land, water, wildlife, and scenic beauty for current and future generations.

“We currently manage 90 acres, and we’re growing,” said Ventura Land Trust’s Executive Director Derek Poultney. “The Wild and Scenic Film Festival is a perfect event for us because it helps connect the Land Trust’s work to the greater global environment. The films are beautiful, educational, and just plain fun.”

“After the success of last year, we discovered that the Credit Union provides a fantastic backdrop for the Festival,” continued Poultney. “Last year attendees loved sitting on blankets and low-back chairs on the park-like lawn while enjoying great food and drink, as well as the terrific line-up of environmentally-minded shorts.”

This year, a new feature has been added into the mix — a VIP Experience Pass. When purchased for $125, VIP Pass holders will have exclusive access to the VIP Lounge and Courtyard where they will enjoy free beer, wine, appetizers, and desserts from 5 – 8 pm. Additionally, VIPS have access to indoor bathrooms throughout the evening. VIP tickets are limited to 80 and are being sold on a first come, first serve basis.

This year’s pre-show entertainment features family-friendly games and activities, booths staffed by a variety of environmentally-minded community partners, and a host of food trucks including It’s in the Sauce, Mr. Softee, and We Bee Poppin. Libations on board include Castoro Cellars, San Antonio Winery, Rincon Brewery, and Topa Topa Brewery. Raffle prizes will consist of Patagonia and REI clothing and gear, original artwork, gift certificates, and more.

Live music presenters include Ojai-based composer, singer/songwriter, and Grammy Award-winning film mixer and sound designer, Todd Hannigan, who along with his band, Sleeping Chief, will perform original folk music with sounds of the mountains and sea. Blues guitarist, Ventura born and raised Guy Martin will play SRV, Hendrix, and original tunes along with his band members longtime bass player Tony Trigueiro, and drummer Pete Galagher.

This year’s “Marquee Sponsor” is The Trade Desk, the “Celebrity Sponsors” are Lorraine Lim Catering, Rabobank and Slaughter, Reagan and Cole, LLP, and the “Venue Sponsor” is Ventura County Credit Union. A full list of sponsors is available at venturalandtrust.org (Wild and Scenic tab).

General admission to the festival is $25/per person (which increases to $35.00 on July 1) and $5.00/per person children ages 12 and under. VIP Experience Passes are $125/person. Purchase at https://www.venturalandtrust.org/2019_wsff and click the drop-down ticket tab.

Proceeds from this year’s event fund VLT’s ongoing open space preservation projects.

The Ventura College-California promise

by Esther Cole

Neighborhood Community Colleges were operable before I graduated from high school, in 1942. They extended the educational opportunities for anyone enrolling. The only requirement was being 18 years of age, or a high school graduate. Without Los Angeles City College, I would never have gotten into U.C., Berkeley.  Berkeley changed my life. But this article is not about me.

This article is about the current advantages of enrolling in Ventura Community College. Ventura College offers many programs, and, a chance to earn an AA, without paying tuition.

This program is titled the Ventura College-California Promise. This Promise is to provide college credit courses at no cost.

That’s right. No tuition. The current program is good for one year. The current program is expected to be extended another year, so any student, eligible for this Ventura College-California Promise, may be able to complete two years, at Ventura Community, without paying tuition fees.

This is the best college news I’ve heard in a long time.

The big noise, about college attendance, is the enormous debt students accrue. Or, the illegal attempts. by parents, to get their children into name schools.

The Ventura College-California Promise is not limited to Ventura College, but the helpful people at Ventura College, are the ones who told me of this program and how it works. This helpful person is

Catherine Mundy, Disabled Student Services Technician, who has worked for the college for over 20 years.

Anyone wanting to get into this program must apply online.

www.ventura college.edu/departments/administrative/foundation.

An interview must be scheduled. That’s it. As stated above, once the student is accepted into this program, there are no tuition fees for the first year.

I sure hope this information is shared with anyone planning to attend Ventura College for the first time.

Vol. 12, No. 18 – June 5 – June 18, 2019 – The Pet Page

Justice and Livi working at CMHS on Memorial Day as part of the Dr. Peter Gall Therapy Dog Program.

∙The Dr. Peter Gall Therapy Dog Program is so popular and has such wonderful teams that two teams visit the second and fourth Monday, as well as the third Saturday each month at Community Memorial Hospital. These Certified Therapy Dogs are much appreciated by patients and staff alike and bring joy to all that they meet.

A visit to the shelter would not be complete without the main attraction — the animals.

∙Stop by the Humane Society of Ventura County on June 8 and help celebrate its 87 years of nonprofit service to the animals of Ventura County. The HSVC’s Open House & Birthday Bash will run from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. on Saturday, June 8, at its Ojai shelter facility, at 402 Bryant St.

Get a behind-the-scenes peek at its facility, participate in the barking or meowing contest, tour the kennels, meet the staff, and learn about different volunteer opportunities. Visitors also will have the opportunity to meet Dr. Christina Sisk, the HSVC’s new director of veterinarian services, and tour the state-of-the-art spay and neuter clinic.

Ma and Paw Kennel will be there, providing information and answering questions about rattlesnake avoidance for you and your dogs. And the folks of Firefly Ceramics will be there with the Tiles for Tails program, where participants paint tiles to be permanently displayed at the shelter, for a $25 donation.

Pam Williams with Service Dog Hibiscus of the Canine Companions for Independence at Ventura College.

∙If you travel around Ventura and Santa Barbara counties you may have seen people with a service dog sporting a hallmark blue vest and yellow trim. If so, you have seen the contribution that Canine Companions for Independence makes in the local community. These dogs are highly skilled, adapted to the needs of their ‘forever person’, public service animals, that perform many of the tasks that might otherwise cause people with disabilities to simply stay home.

Canine Companions for Independence is the nation’s largest provider of highly trained assistance dogs for people with physical or developmental challenges. The organization provides professionally-trained dogs at no cost to the recipient.

Canine Companions provides Service Dogs, Hearing Dogs, Skilled Companions, Facility Dogs, and very recently have added PTSD dogs into their offering. Service Dogs are able to open doors, pick up dropped objects, turn on and off lights, among other tasks for people with significant physical impairments.

Skilled Companions are available for people under 18, and for people who may have an attendant in their company but can benefit from a dog to assist. They can help to focus attention, keep children calm and engaged, and relieve anxiety during times of high stress, among other skills.

Since 1975, Canine Companions has placed more than 5,000 graduate teams in the U.S.

The local volunteer chapter, the Valley to Sea Chapter, started two years ago when veteran volunteer Puppy Raiser, Elizabeth Howell, saw the opportunity to bring her knowledge of CCI to the local community.

Canine Companions breeds and raises all their own dogs with the assistance of a large network of volunteer puppy raisers and puppy sitters. It costs approximately $50,000 to breed, raise, train, care for, and graduate each dog. This task would not be possible without generous donors from businesses and the public.

The Valley to Sea Chapter will be hosting its second annual Canines and Comedy event on June 27th at Levity Live, at The Collection in Oxnard. Festivities will include an opportunity to learn more about Canine Companions, and meet and pet graduate dogs and puppies in training.

Individual tickets as well as packages can be purchased online or at the Levity Live box office, or by emailing the chapter at [email protected]. Individual tickets are $20 from the chapter, and $25 from the Levity Live box office. $20 from every ticket goes directly to support CCI.

If you would like to find out more about CCI, please email the chapter at [email protected] or go online to cci.org. You can also find the chapter on Facebook at @cciv2c.

Ventura Education Partnership awards $18,000 to VUSD teachers

The VEP Board is proud to announce the Partnership has awarded Think Big Grants of $6000 each to three innovative teachers. Think Big Grants range over a two-year span. They are collaborative and bring together teachers, community members and students. They cross grade levels and subjects. VEP had 22 applications for three grants. The process involved a written application and an interview. Six of the 22 applicants were interviewed. The three recipients are:

Alex Wulff- DATA Middle School-SPARK VUSD will encourage and facilitate innovative practices throughout VUSD by establishing a student hosted “Makerspace” training and support center for all Ventura Unified teachers.

Petra McCullough- ATLAS Elementary School- “The Story Time Could Tell.” Students will explore the concept that Earth is organized into different systems by solving real-world problems, collecting data, organizing ideas, making predictions, collaborating as a team, and using time-lapse video.

Kristen Pelfrey- Foothill Technology High School- CREATE: Collaborative Responses (using) Electronics Art Technology Entrepreneurship- All 9th graders are CREATors producing individual and collaborative responses to prompts in a classroom makerspace.

Madhu Bajaj, President of the Ventura Education Partnership commented. “while we love our regular VEPGrants program which offer up to $1000 for classroom grants and will continue to offer those once a year, we wanted to do something more to support highly innovative educators. The Think Big Grants gave us the opportunity to invest in transformative projects that are collaborative and impact a large number of students. We look forward to sharing project results in the near future and expanding this new offering over time.”

Many community businesses and organizations support this program through their funding of VEPGrants. Some of them include MJP Technologies, Community Memorial Health System, Aera Energy, Mountains to Beach Marathon, the Rotary Club of Ventura and the Ventura Kiwanis Club. The Ventura Education Partnership connects community resources to support and sustain innovation in education to benefit VUSD students.

The VEPGrant program will be spotlighted at the inaugural “LAUNCH” event on June 20, 2019. This event will be held at the Ventura Masonic Center at 5:30 pm. LAUNCH will celebrate passionate educators who tell their stories of inspired classroom innovation. For more information contact: VenturaEducationPartnership.org .

Programs to help pay for assisted living are limited

It will take more then change to cover your costs.

Many people mistakenly think that Medicare will help cover these costs, but Medicare does not pay for assisted living. On the other hand, Medicaid does cover certain types of long-term care services. Specific programs vary by state, but most state Medicaid programs offer some sort of financial assistance with the costs of assisted living. However, Medicaid uses strict eligibility guidelines that also vary by state. For more information on qualifying for Medicaid, contact your local Area Agency on Aging or your state’s department of health and human services or department of social services.

The reality is that when it comes to assisted living, most families pay out of pocket. If the adult children have the resources, they will often contribute to their parents’ care if Mom and Dad don’t have sufficient funds. This, of course, can cause issues within the family, especially if some siblings are wealthier than others. How do families decide whether the children should financially contribute to their parents’ care, and, if they do, who pays how much? For those who are less well off, don’t ignore the option of payday loans as sometimes they can be a great way to help you organise your cash flow, and they could allow you to contribute to your parents’ welfare which is one of the most important things you’ll ever have to do. Just make sure you read some advice first that explains what you should look for in a payday lender, as they’re all very different.

Family meetings can help move things along. Sometimes that means siblings must grow up enough to put aside sibling rivalries and old family dynamics for the benefit of their parent(s), but if that can be done, a collaborative plan can be devised.

There are options other than splitting the cost evenly. One sibling may have a substantial income but live far away from their parents. This sibling could contribute more financially, while another sibling who lives closer and has a more limited income can take on a larger part of the hands-on care that may, in turn, keep down some of the costs. A third sibling may do a little of each.

Unfortunately, some siblings just plain don’t get along and issues with parent care often bring out the worst in their relationships. In particularly difficult scenarios like these, a mediator can assist families in finding an elder care plan that everyone approves of. Having a neutral party present to weigh in during family meetings can help siblings put aside personal differences, find compassion (or at least tolerance) for one another and concentrate on the wellbeing of their parents.

Another less popular option is deciding not to contribute. Not every adult child is in a position to help their parents financially. You’d like to see Mom and Dad get top-of-the-line care, but you may all have to agree that more humble surroundings are all the family can afford. After all, your parents have had their whole lives to save and spend wisely. Whatever money they have set aside should be used for their care. Not only is making major contributions difficult for an adult child to budget for in the first place, but it also results in less savings for their own children, their retirement and their long-term care.

Rather than making financial contributions, offer your parents emotional and logistical support. Help them research long-term care options, financial assistance, and other federal, state, and local programs. Help them plan to spend down their assets and apply for Medicaid. Having your emotional support is often more important to your parents than having your fleeting financial support.

There is no telling how long Mom and Dad may reside in assisted living or how much their care needs may increase. Many adult children agree to help cover costs only to realize that they’ve committed to paying for long-term care for many, many years. This can be a financially devastating decision that is difficult to back out of, especially if the children have signed binding contracts with a facility regarding payment.

WWII aircraft flyover to honor veterans at upcoming event

This WW II Navy aircraft will honor Veterans with a flyover at the “Salute Our Veterans.” Photo courtesy of CAF SO CAL

Cypress Place Senior Living in Ventura has a history of honoring Veterans. On Wednesday June 26, 2019, the senior living community will host their 11th annual “Salute Our Veterans” celebration with a ceremony recognizing residents of Cypress Place, as well as members of the public, who served their country. The event is free and open to the public. Come join them for this powerful tribute.

New to the event this year will be a WW II Warbird flyover presented by the Commemorative Air Force Southern California Wing aviation museum (CAF So Cal).

The Commemorative Air Force (CAF) was founded as an all-volunteer organization to acquire, restore and preserve in flying condition a complete collection of combat aircraft which were flown by all military services of the United States.

The CAF So Cal museum is located in hangars at the Camarillo Airport, and consists of 12 WWII era aircraft, many of which are flyable and perform in airshows. The museum is also home to an ever-growing collection of World War II aviation artifacts and displays, intended to preserve the memories and to honor the sacrifices of Americans in our country’s air wars.

“We are thrilled to be partnering with CAF So Cal this year for our event, and are incredibly honored that they will be presenting a flyover as part of our ceremony honoring local Veterans,” said Mike Macke, director of sales and marketing at Cypress Place. “We want to honor all Veterans, and make sure we don’t forget what they have done for their country.”

In addition to the flyover, a real Huey Army MEDEVAC helicopter will be on display from 11am to 1pm during the event. The helicopter on display has bullet holes from its time in Vietnam, according to Bryan Scofield of Scofield Catering and Management, the owner of the retired Huey. The helicopter is over fifty feet in length according to Scofield, and evokes powerful emotions in Veterans and almost anyone who sees it.

No less emotional will be the ceremony recognizing residents of Cypress Place, as well as members of the public, who served their country.

Leading the tribute will be a bagpipe processional by nationally known Pipe Major Bill Boetticher. Boetticher played at the funeral of former first lady Nancy Reagan. A military Color Guard presentation by the 1st Memorial Honors Detail will follow, followed by a special Veteran recognition, along with recognition of widows and widowers of Veterans. Keynote speaker will be Captain Michael France, Deputy Commodore for ACCLOGWING for Naval Base Ventura County.

Special words of thanks will be also be offered during the ceremony by Ventura City Mayor Matt Lavere, Fire Chief David Endaya, and Police Chief Ken Corney. There will be live musical entertainment, a flag folding ceremony, and TAPS will also be played at this touching tribute.

A free BBQ lunch will follow the powerful program. “Touching History”, a private war memorabilia collection by Tom Weaver will also be displayed, along with memorabilia from residents of the senior community.

CAF So Cal will also have a display of memorabilia curated from their extensive aviation museum, along with an Army jeep available for attendees to sit in or pose next to for photographs.

The event is free and open to the public. All Veterans are encouraged to attend, as well as families, friends and neighbors.

The event begins promptly at 11am with the flyover, and takes place on Wednesday, June 26th, 2019. Cypress Place Senior Living is located at 1200 Cypress Point Lane in Ventura. For more information or to RSVP, please call 805-650-8000.

Free shuttle parking will be available at Unitarian Universalist Church of Ventura (corner of Ralston Street and Cypress Point Lane).

To learn more about Cypress Place Senior Living of Ventura, visit their web site at www.cypressplaceseniorliving.com.